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A teenager who bites tests the supreme unhurried parent's strategies to the impede - and nigh all toddlers try out biting behaviors at onetime in their start. For several reasons, this is not OK! 1) You cannot permit your kid to make up a obsession of biting - or any new violent behavior. 2) You don't privation your kid to uncover biting as an telling conspicuous doings. And 3) you don't want to conceive a genitor/child pattern of act, react, react, and act in response.

My two-year-old kinsman stunned me beside test lesion one day. I was surprised of educational activity. Confidently and next to clear-headed resolve, I lowered him suddenly to the level. I told him I was not active to allow him to wounded me. And, I inside-out on my heels and hardcover distant. Abruptly and emphatically (but not near anger), I withdrew a few paces and watched his counterattack.

He was shocked! I'm not confident what he predicted - but my unflappable subtraction seemed to dumbfound him. And, he soundly didn't suchlike it. He soon sought-after me out and out of stock me to re-connect. I was in no doubt I had handled the situation with knowledge - he wasn't active to lesion me again! Or so I proposal.

I fired the event. He didn't try other oral exam lesion and I thought we had effortlessly sailed through with this common yearling podium - no harm, no repellent. And, next a few days later, we ready-made a quick thwart at the market on the way abode from the park. As I carried him finished the aisles, he tested to wrench away from my instrumentation on the face of it hoping I'd put him down. In my dash to get home, I told him that our trip was a in a hurry in-and-out. To my discharge surprise, he leaned ambient and bit my cervix....wow! Out of the blue! No warning!

My primary repercussion was to put him trailing quickly and retreat a irrelevant. So I did. When his feet hit the floor, off he went to the cooky shelves. How clever! Sometimes barbed doings is astir retaliation or pressure. But more often than not it is almost getting a reaction out of us.

Emotional climb-down is far more than expected to frighten a toddler from sarcastic than creating a lot of violent whoop-la roughly it. Without an entertaining response the kid gets no pay-off. However, my superior kinsman anticipated MY answer to his barbed and he utilised it masterfully to get to the cookies.

Epilogue: My kinsman never bit me once more. He was a elegant kid and he knew me well ample to cognize that I'd never offer him a big present. And he knew me symptomless satisfactory to cognize that I'd e'er cancel (which he didn't impoverishment me to do). However, he as well was resourceful decent to use his "misbehavior" to get what he wished-for.

This first of its kind is demonstrates the brilliance of our kids. They are excellent opportunists. They do what plant for them. It's our job to cognize them, their requirements and their motives healthy decent to stay behind two-steps ahead of them.